It is possible to save your marriage if you are ready to make a real commitment. Regardless of why you and your spouse are thinking about ending things, there is still hope for your marriage. Here is how to save my marriage in five steps.

1. Don’t Rush In

Don’t make any hasty decisions about getting divorced or about getting back together and immediately moving on. It is important to acknowledge that your marriage has issues that need to be addressed. Take the time to talk about your marriage with your spouse and spend some brief time apart if you need to get over some anger or other negative emotions.

2. Find Support And Help

Going through a marriage crisis is difficult and you need to reach out and ask for help.  Do not hesitate to ask for help if you are having a hard time with some of your obligations and daily tasks from your relatives and friends.

However, it is important not to involve others in the personal details of your problems. Usually, that is hurtful as people tend to take sides and get into your business too much.

Seek marriage friendly professional help if things are serious. It is very difficult to figure out your problems on your own because of being too close to your own situation. A professional with a good success record can help you find solutions much more quickly due to long experience and training.

3. Convince Your Spouse To Save Your Marriage but Give Them Space Also

You can save your marriage even if you are the only one willing to try at first, so don’t give up easily.

It might take some time before your spouse is ready to work on things. Give them time and space if they need it. Show your spouse that the marriage is worth saving by apologizing if you hurt them and by letting them know that you are ready to do whatever it takes.

You can also think back on the good parts of your marriage to remind yourself why the marriage is worth saving. Keep in mind that your spouse may be in a different place where she or he isn’t recalling the good and only focusing on the negative side of your relationship history.




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4. Talk About Your Issues

Your marriage has some issues that you need to identify, acknowledge, and resolve. There might be some personal issues that are affecting the relationship as well.

How to save my marriage depends on which issues you are able to identify. Please consider getting counseling or therapy if you or your spouse has personal issues.


5. Work On Your Marriage

You can save your marriage and build a happier and stronger relationship by making your marriage your top priority. Have a talk with your spouse to better understand what they expect from the relationship.

You also need to express your needs and tell your spouse how they can meet these needs. Working on your marriage will help you develop a relationship that is more satisfying and that meets the needs of each spouse.

It is also important to learn to better share with your spouse to clearly express and understand one another needs and bring up issues before they affect the relationship.

Follow these five steps to save your marriage. Be patient and don’t give up even if you feel that you are not making progress at first. Fixing your marriage will require some time and effort but you can build a happier relationship if you dedicate yourself to saving your marriage.


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    Waverly Hanson

    Waverly Hanson

    Marriage Counselor & Author

    In my personal life, I have had a long successful marriage and have remarried following my husband's death.  I have had three sons and helped raise a niece for three years and have seven grandchildren.  I have loved spending time with them as they were growing up.

    I also enjoy getting together with family and friends, ATVing in the mountains, photography, hiking, and traveling. I also enjoy reading, creating art, decorating, and serving others by volunteering. 

    Assisting couples in rebuilding their marriages has been so rewarding as I've had the privilege of seeing hundreds of couples reunite and get back to being positively connected to one another. 

    I also work with personal development and those who want to move forward by making positive improvements such as goal setting, self-care, boundaries, behavioral improvements, overcoming procrastination, conflict management, etc.