With over 2,000 divorces filed each day in the U.S., it is not surprising to come across couples who are experiencing problems. You might be in one of these relationships and might be wondering what you can do about it. If you feel that your marriage is in trouble, you need to react quickly and should consider receiving marriage help.


Do You Need Help with Your Marriage?

Some couples are able to work out their problems without receiving help from anyone. However, this approach does not work for everyone. You will have to overcome several obstacles if you decide to fix your marriage without receiving help from a professional and might find that talking about your problems is difficult if not impossible if you have built a relationship where communication and trust are missing.

It is not uncommon for one of the spouses to completely shut down and to avoid talking about the marital problems and finding compromises is difficult if you and your spouse tend to argue about everything.

How Can A Counselor Help?

A marriage counselor or therapist will help you with different things. First of all, they will be able to create a space where you and your spouse can be heard and listen to each other without fighting. Your counselor or therapist will guide the discussion and help you identify the real issues that are hurting your marriage. These problems can be hiding in plain sight and might be difficult to recognize because you have been living with them for years.


How Will A Counselor Help You Fix Your Marriage?

The counselor you work with will help you identify the main issues that are ruining your marriage. They will recommend different strategies you and your spouse can use to get over these problems and build a better relationship. Your counselor will also help you and your spouse address your differences in a constructive manner. You will learn how to communicate, how to have a fair fight and how to make compromises. These skills will help you work out your problems in the future and will make your marriage stronger.




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Can You Fix Your Marriage Without Professional Help?

You should definitely try to address your issues with your spouse before looking for a counselor, coach or therapist. It is important to admit that you need marriage help if you don’t see an improvement after a while. Please do bring up the marriage and mention the things you would like to work but remember to be constructive.

Listen to what your spouse has to say about the relationship and about the improvements they would like to see. Try finding solutions and compromises together to see if you can fix the marriage without getting outside help. However, it is not unusual for it to be unusual for couples to find a solution on their own, due to the fact that most are too close to the situation to see your own situation realistically.

Many couples blame one another, refuse to see their own part of the problems, or fight and argue in mean ways with name-calling or by giving the silent treatment.

Your marriage doesn’t have to end in a divorce if you decide to change a few things and to focus on building a better relationship. Think about getting help from a marriage friendly professional if you and your spouse can’t find solutions to your problems.


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    Waverly Hanson

    Waverly Hanson

    Marriage Counselor & Author

    In my personal life, I have had a long successful marriage and have remarried following my husband's death.  I have had three sons and helped raise a niece for three years and have seven grandchildren.  I have loved spending time with them as they were growing up.

    I also enjoy getting together with family and friends, ATVing in the mountains, photography, hiking, and traveling. I also enjoy reading, creating art, decorating, and serving others by volunteering. 

    Assisting couples in rebuilding their marriages has been so rewarding as I've had the privilege of seeing hundreds of couples reunite and get back to being positively connected to one another. 

    I also work with personal development and those who want to move forward by making positive improvements such as goal setting, self-care, boundaries, behavioral improvements, overcoming procrastination, conflict management, etc.