Constantly arguing with your spouse, no longer feeling close to them or being unhappy can result in a serious marriage crisis. This doesn’t mean things have to end. These tips will help you if you are wondering how to save my marriage.

Unfortunately, at this date, the divorce rate is now highest among couples who have been together for 20 – 30 years.


Don’t Give Up

Giving up on your marriage can be tempting and you might feel like your spouse has already given up. Your marriage is worth saving and you can fix things if you take action now. Start by reaching out to your spouse to let them know you want to save your marriage. Apologize if your actions or words have hurt your spouse.


Remember Why Your Marriage Is Worth Saving

If your spouse does not seem willing to work on the marriage, try encouraging them that what you have is worth saving. Think back on your happiest moments together and on the things you accomplished as a couple. This will help you stay motivated as you work on fixing your marriage and might be enough to convince your spouse to work things out.

Be aware, however, that if your problems have been going on for a long time, your spouse may no longer be in touch with the good memories. She or he may only recall all the unhappy times. This is not at all uncommon.

Put A Plan Together

You need an action plan to save your marriage. The things you need to do depend on why you encountered a marriage crisis. Consider spending a very short time apart until each spouse can at least consider the idea of possibly forgiving the other.

If you encountered a crisis due to a lack of communication, look for things you can do to gradually rebuild the relationship and learn to communicate again. Ideally, you should have your spouse help you put this action plan together.


Consider Getting Some Help

It is possible to save your marriage if you identify your issues and can find solutions that will help you get over your marriage crisis and rebuild the relationship. However, you should not hesitate to get help if you feel overwhelmed by this process or if you can’t find solutions.

Hopefully, you have family and friends who will support your marriage and moving forward. Usually, though it is not helpful to involve them in your private and personal issues for several reasons.  One of those reasons is that people often take sides and give advice that is not helpful.

It can make it more difficult to resolve your own marriage issues if too many outsiders, though well-meaning, are too involved. These issues within your marriage are your own and it is much safer to get help from a marriage friendly professional who has lots of success in repairing marriages.




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Build A Relationship That Will Make You and Your Spouse Happy

Going through a marriage crisis should be a wake-up call. Your marriage probably failed because the relationship didn’t meet the needs of one or both of you.

This is a sign that you need to be more attentive to each other’s needs. New efforts will assist you both in building a better relationship that will bring satisfaction to you and your spouse. This process begins by fixing your marriage and it will never end since you should always be making efforts to nurture one another within your marriage.

If you are unsure of how to save the marriage, start by having a talk with your spouse so you can identify your issues if she or he is open to that.

Perhaps your relationship has deteriorated to the point where that is no longer possible. If so, please go together or separately to a marriage expert who can help you peacefully sort out where to start the repair and reconciliation process.

You can then decide to receive counseling or try fixing things by yourselves if you can think of some solutions to your problems.

I can confidently share there is almost always hope. I have literally been a part of hundreds of couples turning their relationship around in a very short time!


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    Waverly Hanson

    Waverly Hanson

    Marriage Counselor & Author

    In my personal life, I have had a long successful marriage and have remarried following my husband's death.  I have had three sons and helped raise a niece for three years and have seven grandchildren.  I have loved spending time with them as they were growing up.

    I also enjoy getting together with family and friends, ATVing in the mountains, photography, hiking, and traveling. I also enjoy reading, creating art, decorating, and serving others by volunteering. 

    Assisting couples in rebuilding their marriages has been so rewarding as I've had the privilege of seeing hundreds of couples reunite and get back to being positively connected to one another. 

    I also work with personal development and those who want to move forward by making positive improvements such as goal setting, self-care, boundaries, behavioral improvements, overcoming procrastination, conflict management, etc.