Does your marriage feel like it is broken? If yes, it is time to take action and look for ways to fix things. Your marriage does not have to end even though things might look bad at the moment. Here is how you can fix a broken marriage.
What Feels Broken About Your Marriage?
Ask yourself what feels broken about your marriage. You and your spouse might have stopped communicating or you might feel that there is a lack of affection in the relationship. You could bring up these problems with your spouse and ask them how they feel about the marriage.
If you and your spouse are unable to talk about your issues or tend to always argue, think about meeting with a counselor, coach or therapist to help you address your problems without arguing.
Perhaps you have developed some bad habits, fallen into some negative ruts which have become destructive to your relationship.
How Can You Move Forward?
You cannot fix a broken marriage unless you and your spouse commit to saving what you have. It helps to remind yourselves of all the good things and of why the marriage is worth saving. Hopefully, you and your spouse can agree that saving your marriage is your top priority and that you will do whatever it takes.
What If Your Spouse Is Not Cooperating?
Your spouse might either feel like getting a divorce is the best option or might not feel there is anything wrong with the relationship. If you feel that your spouse is not being cooperative, the best thing you can do is start working on the marriage by yourself.
Show them how things could be different and do your best to be more loving, understanding, and encouraging. Be patient and don’t give up even if you feel that you are the only one making an effort.
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What Will Make You and Your Spouse Happier?
You and your spouse need to have a talk about what an ideal relationship would be like. This will help you determine what you and your spouse expect from the marriage.
Invest in getting closer to your spouse through developing a friendship, paying attention to them and their interests and through finding new things you can do together.
How Can You Fix Your Marriage?
It’s important that you accept the fact that fixing your marriage will take time. When your marriage is more satisfying again, it is important to keep up on the things that bring you closer to one another.
Plan on having regular connecting conversations with your spouse so you can work on your communication skills. This way you can deal with any issues you are encountering before they pile up and become harder to solve.
Look for things you can do on a daily or weekly basis to build a better marriage, even if they are small things. It is amazing that usually it just takes some small changes to make a huge difference in your marriage.
Your marriage is worth saving and you can build a stronger and happier relationship if you commit to changing things and being the best spouse you can be.
Remember that it is crucial to communicate with your spouse so you can both express your feelings and understand what the other expects from the marriage.
Marriage Counselor & Author
In my personal life, I have had a long successful marriage and have remarried following my husband's death. I have had three sons and helped raise a niece for three years and have seven grandchildren. I have loved spending time with them as they were growing up.
I also enjoy getting together with family and friends, ATVing in the mountains, photography, hiking, and traveling. I also enjoy reading, creating art, decorating, and serving others by volunteering.
Assisting couples in rebuilding their marriages has been so rewarding as I've had the privilege of seeing hundreds of couples reunite and get back to being positively connected to one another.
I also work with personal development and those who want to move forward by making positive improvements such as goal setting, self-care, boundaries, behavioral improvements, overcoming procrastination, conflict management, etc.