You can get help to save your marriage regardless of what you are going through. The right counselor, coach, or therapist will help you and your spouse identify the issues that are ruining your marriage and work with you to find solutions you can use to heal and build a stronger marriage. Here are five reasons to get marriage help.
Fixing Your Marriage By Yourself Is Hard
Fixing a marriage after an affair or another crisis is difficult and takes time. You might feel like you are not making any progress and might be tempted to give up.
Working with a counselor, coach or therapist will help you keep things in perspective. Your therapist or counselor will work with you and your spouse to create a step-by-step plan you can follow to solve your problems.
You Need A Neutral Third Party
Therapists, coaches, and counselors help couples by guiding discussions and by acting as a neutral third party. The professional you work with will not take sides and will create an environment where you and your spouse can talk about your problems without fighting. If you cannot have a civilized conversation with your spouse or are unable to find solutions together, you will definitely benefit from counseling.
A Counselor, Coach, or Therapist Can State The Obvious
Identifying the issues that are putting your marriage in jeopardy is not always easy, especially if you have been living in a dysfunctional relationship for years.
A marriage professional will recognize the problems that need to be worked out after asking a few questions of you and your spouse. This will help you save some time and you will be able to start working on what needs to change right away.
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Your Marriage Professional Will Help You Find Solutions
Counselors or therapists who specialize in helping couples have years of experience when it comes to resolving conflicts. You will benefit from this experience and will receive tools you can use on a daily basis to fix your marriage.
Your counselor, coach, or therapist will also help you and your spouse stay focused on fixing things instead of blaming each other for your problems.
Attending Sessions Helps You Stay Committed
Fixing a marriage takes time and requires a lot of commitment and effort. Attending counseling sessions once a week or twice a month will help you and your spouse stay committed to this process.
You will be more likely to make conscious efforts to save the marriage if you set a few goals that you need to meet between each counseling session. Your counselor will help you measure the progress you and your spouse have made and suggest more things you can do to heal, repair or rebuild your relationship.
These are a few reasons to get marriage help. You will find it very beneficial if you find it difficult to talk about your problems with your spouse. You as a couple may have formed the habit of tending to argue and blame each other instead of making compromises.
If you would like to use someone in your local area, be sure to search for what I call a marriage friendly professional.
You have nothing to lose by giving this a try. If you don’t get professional help to save your marriage and end up divorced, you will always wonder if you could have succeeded.
After over 25 years of working with hundreds of couples, I am still awed by the miraculous marriage turnarounds I’ve witnessed over and over.
Marriage Counselor & Author
In my personal life, I have had a long successful marriage and have remarried following my husband's death. I have had three sons and helped raise a niece for three years and have seven grandchildren. I have loved spending time with them as they were growing up.
I also enjoy getting together with family and friends, ATVing in the mountains, photography, hiking, and traveling. I also enjoy reading, creating art, decorating, and serving others by volunteering.
Assisting couples in rebuilding their marriages has been so rewarding as I've had the privilege of seeing hundreds of couples reunite and get back to being positively connected to one another.
I also work with personal development and those who want to move forward by making positive improvements such as goal setting, self-care, boundaries, behavioral improvements, overcoming procrastination, conflict management, etc.