Going through a rough patch in your marriage can make you feel hopeless. But now is not the time to give up. Your marriage is worth saving and you can fix things if you make your marriage a priority and follow these seven tips.


Don’t Be Negative

It is very easy to fall into unhealthy patterns. You and your spouse might be

constantly arguing or blaming each other. If you are wondering how to save my marriage, start by adopting a more positive attitude. Do your best to talk with your spouse calmly and to focus on finding solutions instead of arguing.


Focus On Yourself

If you are generally unhappy with your life, ask yourself what could be improved and encourage your spouse to do the same. Focusing on yourself will allow you to bring more to the marriage. You could, for instance, work on some personal issues you have, focus on your career or learn to love yourself more.

Address Your Issues

Sit down with your spouse and make a list of the issues that have been affecting the marriage. Take some time to really think about your life and relationship to identify the deeper issues. You might find that you and your spouse don’t communicate enough or that the way you are interacting doesn’t meet the needs of one or both of you.


Find Solutions

Tackle one issue at a time and look for a solution that makes you and your spouse happy. You will have to make compromises and might need some time to find realistic and efficient ways to resolve your issues. The key is to keep communicating, tell each other about your feelings and express what you would like to see change.


Get Rid Of Bad Habits

There are habits that can really hurt a relationship. These include being overly flirtatious with the other sex, hiding things from your spouse and making decisions without each other’s input. Identify which bad habits have been hurting your marriage and give yourself or your spouse enough time to make a real effort to change these habits.




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Pay Attention To Your Partner

Ask your partner about the things they expect from the marriage and do your best to meet their needs. They might not reciprocate at first but you don’t give up. Tell yourself that you are doing your part to save my marriage by being the best spouse you can be and by making your marriage a priority.


Develop New Relationship Skills

Your marriage will be in trouble again in the future unless you develop new relationship skills. These skills include being attentive to each other and understanding each other’s needs.

At the same time, learn about one another’s expectations and actually communicate in a healthy manner that works for your spouse. When you also make the effort to develop a strong friendship with your spouse and take time for fun, you can demonstrate your marriage is your top priority.

These tips will help you get through a rough patch in your marriage. Talk with your spouse about what you can both do to save the marriage and think about getting help from a marriage friendly counselor, coach or therapist.

Please do not give up on your marriage. I have personally seen hundreds of marriages turnaround and become happier than ever.


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    Waverly Hanson

    Waverly Hanson

    Marriage Counselor & Author

    In my personal life, I have had a long successful marriage and have remarried following my husband's death.  I have had three sons and helped raise a niece for three years and have seven grandchildren.  I have loved spending time with them as they were growing up.

    I also enjoy getting together with family and friends, ATVing in the mountains, photography, hiking, and traveling. I also enjoy reading, creating art, decorating, and serving others by volunteering. 

    Assisting couples in rebuilding their marriages has been so rewarding as I've had the privilege of seeing hundreds of couples reunite and get back to being positively connected to one another. 

    I also work with personal development and those who want to move forward by making positive improvements such as goal setting, self-care, boundaries, behavioral improvements, overcoming procrastination, conflict management, etc.