You need to take action and address the problems you are experiencing in your marriage if your relationship is no longer healthy, loving or respectful.It is possible to find solutions to your marriage problems if you are able to talk about them and to work with your spouse on building a better relationship.
Start By Defining Your Problems
Some marriages fail due to a lack of closeness between the spouses or due to a lack of communication. Some marriages do not last because the two spouses have very different worldviews or different goals and are unable or unwilling to make compromises. You cannot start looking for solutions to your problems until you have clearly identified them.
You probably have a good idea of why the marriage is no longer satisfying for you but you also need to listen to what your spouse has to say. They might be dissatisfied with the marriage for reasons that you ignored if you’ve never openly talked about your relationship before.
Work On Creating A Relationship That Meets The Needs Of You Both
You and your spouse need to spend some time thinking first and then talking about your marriage to figure out what kind of relationship you want. Ideally, you should both feel appreciated and loved.
Affection and attention are important for a successful marriage, but you might have other needs that should be met as well. This isn’t something you can figure out until you really take some time to ask yourself what the ideal marriage is like for you and encourage your spouse to do the same.
Let Go of Your Negative Emotions
You cannot move forward with your marriage and fix things if you hold on to negative emotions. There are many reasons why negative emotions build up in a marriage. Fighting with one another or one spouse not participating in household chores can cause the other one to experience resentment.
You need to talk about these emotions with your spouse and figure out how you can get over them. Forgiving each other for past mistakes is important to know what causes resentment and other negative emotions to build up.
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Make an Effort to Invest in Your Marriage Every Day
Making an investment in your marriage daily is vital. Once you have identified what your problems are, look for things that both spouses can do to build a better relationship.
This might include spending some quality time together at the end of the day, scheduling some time to talk about your lives, problems, and feelings, or finding new things you can do together. Investing in your marriage takes regular efforts on your part, but it is important to engage with your spouse on a daily basis.
These different strategies will help you fix your marriage. If you feel that you are not making the progress you would like to make, think about meeting with a counselor, coach, or therapist.
If you are looking locally, be certain you search for what I call a marriage friendly professional.
After over 25 years and hundreds of couples, I am still awed by what I consider miraculous marriage turnarounds!
You have nothing to lose by giving it a try! You will always wonder if you could have saved your marriage if you don’t.
Marriage Counselor & Author
In my personal life, I have had a long successful marriage and have remarried following my husband's death. I have had three sons and helped raise a niece for three years and have seven grandchildren. I have loved spending time with them as they were growing up.
I also enjoy getting together with family and friends, ATVing in the mountains, photography, hiking, and traveling. I also enjoy reading, creating art, decorating, and serving others by volunteering.
Assisting couples in rebuilding their marriages has been so rewarding as I've had the privilege of seeing hundreds of couples reunite and get back to being positively connected to one another.
I also work with personal development and those who want to move forward by making positive improvements such as goal setting, self-care, boundaries, behavioral improvements, overcoming procrastination, conflict management, etc.