There are a few telling signs that your marriage needs help. If you and your spouse have become disengaged from the relationship or seem to be unable to talk about anything without fighting, it is time to seek help. You should also consider seeking marriage help if another event that caused a marriage crisis.


Acknowledge That You Need Help

Some couples are able to work out their differences without receiving counseling or professional help. However, it is important to acknowledge that you need some help with your marriage if you are unable to talk about your problems without destructive fighting. Perhaps you can’t find a solution that is satisfying for you and your spouse.

A marriage coach, therapist or counselor will give you both a chance to express how you feel and will work with you to find solutions to your issues. She or he will help you accomplish this by helping you create an environment where you and your spouse will be able to communicate more freely and clearly.

Ask Yourself Why You Need Help

You might need marriage help for a number of reasons. Couples usually seek help because it seems that they are headed for a divorce. If you or your spouse are considering getting a divorce or if you feel that a separation is inevitable, it’s time to seek professional help.

It is also urgent that you be willing to make some changes in the ways you have been interacting with one another. if you don’t make some changes, it is time to start looking into receiving counseling. Additionally, frequently it is helpful to get assistance in addressing some personal problems that are impacting the marriage.


Bring Up Counseling, Coaching, or Therapy

Fixing your marriage is a lot easier if you can get your spouse to work on things with you. Why not approach your spouse and bring up marriage help explaining why you think you would both benefit from receiving help?

Tell your spouse that you would like to work things out. Encourage your spouse to make a compromise if they are reluctant at the idea of receiving counseling.




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Set Some Realistic Expectations

Don’t expect everything to get better once you decide to start marriage help sessions. Fixing a marriage is a process that takes time. You and your spouse need some time to heal if you went through a marriage crisis.

It is very important that you commit to making efforts within your marriage o and put together an actionable plan with specific things you can both do to improve the relationship during your counseling sessions. Obviously between your appointments, you will need to put the new ways of being with one another into action and not just when you meet with your therapist, coach or counselor.


There is Hope for Your Marriage

Fixing your marriage is definitely worth it!  Look into meeting with a marriage friendly therapist, coach or counselor who specializes in working with couples. These sessions will help you and your spouse open up and address your issues. You will learn how to listen to each other, how to meet each other’s needs and how to fight fair so you can find solutions to your problems. This is a step in the right direction if your marriage needs help, but remember that this is the first step of a special marriage journey!


Just want to share that after over 25 years and hundreds of couples, I am still totally awed by the hundreds of what I consider miraculous turnarounds! 


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    Waverly Hanson

    Waverly Hanson

    Marriage Counselor & Author

    In my personal life, I have had a long successful marriage and have remarried following my husband's death.  I have had three sons and helped raise a niece for three years and have seven grandchildren.  I have loved spending time with them as they were growing up.

    I also enjoy getting together with family and friends, ATVing in the mountains, photography, hiking, and traveling. I also enjoy reading, creating art, decorating, and serving others by volunteering. 

    Assisting couples in rebuilding their marriages has been so rewarding as I've had the privilege of seeing hundreds of couples reunite and get back to being positively connected to one another. 

    I also work with personal development and those who want to move forward by making positive improvements such as goal setting, self-care, boundaries, behavioral improvements, overcoming procrastination, conflict management, etc.