Are you afraid that your marriage may be over?
Do you think that you’re on the brink of a divorce? If your marriage is in trouble, then those questions are probably on the tip of your mind. The truth is, relationships and marriages are quite delicate and you constantly need to nurture them work to keep them strong and healthy.
In this article, we will be covering a few tips for saving your marriage that will not only work but make both you and your partner much happier.
The first tip is to have a date night at least once per week.
This is important to keep the romance going between you and your partner. It is essential that you pay complete attention to your husband or wife during this time and don’t get distracted by work or other responsibilities. If you have kids, then you should either hire a babysitter or get a trusted family member to take care of them for a few hours.
One way to put romance back into your life is to set aside these special times to have fun – no problem talk allowed! If you are unable to do weekly dates, at least every two weeks will make a difference.
It is vital that you put your phone on silent and only answer calls/texts that are absolutely critical. (Like your house is on fire or your child was injured seriously.)
You should try to make the time you spend with your husband or wife as special as possible and make it feel as though you two are dating all over again. This is a surefire way to ensure that the love between you two continues to grow and doesn’t just die through neglect.
Hopefully, you’re not like many couples I see that when asked about the last date they had as a couple have to look at each other with the question!
Next, put your strong efforts in seeking to solve major problems.
At the time remember that not all problems are solvable. Couples who report being happily married all still have things they wish were different but have learned to accept one another as unique and different. Part of that live and let live attitude that happy couples allow to be.
If there are major differences, you may need a professional to assist in bringing you to peace and acceptance of one another’s ways.
Learning to listen beyond the words is a great skill to develop.
You each can learn to voice topics that are uncomfortable without resorting to arguing or raising your voice. In the event that you cannot seem to problem-solve issues on your own, then you would benefit by seeing a marriage-friendly counselor, coach, or therapist with a good success record.
A professional is a great option for those who have a hard time communicating with their spouse or if communication cannot occur without arguments. The counselor will act as an intermediary to ensure that both of you remain level-headed and fair and will be able to help you identify the real issues in your relationship.
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Lastly, saving your marriage involves you both as individuals!
Please accept the fact that many or perhaps, most marriage problems are often related to each of your own personal issues. Rarely are problems manifested in the marriage just about the marriage. So while you are considering marriage help, please also open yourself to accept that your own attitudes and issues may be part of your marriage problems.
As you open yourself to these ideas, it is important that you each take time to think about your own actions and behavior and see how they led to the breakdown in your relationship.
If there is one thing that is within your control, it is yourself. So, take time to think about how you can change and what you can do differently in order to make the marriage happier.
In closing, we have just looked at a few tips to help you save your marriage. It will take time and patience depending on how badly the relationship has been damaged. However, if you both persevere, I am certain that your marriage will last a lifetime.
Marriage Counselor & Author
In my personal life, I have had a long successful marriage and have remarried following my husband's death. I have had three sons and helped raise a niece for three years and have seven grandchildren. I have loved spending time with them as they were growing up.
I also enjoy getting together with family and friends, ATVing in the mountains, photography, hiking, and traveling. I also enjoy reading, creating art, decorating, and serving others by volunteering.
Assisting couples in rebuilding their marriages has been so rewarding as I've had the privilege of seeing hundreds of couples reunite and get back to being positively connected to one another.
I also work with personal development and those who want to move forward by making positive improvements such as goal setting, self-care, boundaries, behavioral improvements, overcoming procrastination, conflict management, etc.