When it is about saving your marriage against intruders, it doesn’t necessarily mean that the people are aiming at poisoning your heart against your spouse. It involves every other thing which drifts you apart or comes between you two. There might come times when both of you might feel there is a whole world between the two of you and it would take a lot of struggle to get through the chaos so you could once again enjoy your beautiful bond of love and trust.

It is important to keep track of what comes between you two and to hold your guard against everyone and everything that has a potential to tear you away given the slightest amount of negligence.


1. Restrict Displays of Affection on Social Media

Your marriage and the relationship with your spouse are not, and must not be defined by the number of likes and comments you get on your honeymoon album. This trend no matter how cool it may seem, especially for the young couples tying the knot in today’s age of technological advancements, could be detrimental to your marriage. What has to be kept personal has to be in confines of the bond set by you two and unnecessary information sharing may result in unnecessary comparisons, resentments and mean taunts, which might just blow off the entire mood.

2. Keep the Bond of Trust Unshaken

Reinforce the trust between the both of you each day without fail. You need to communicate to each other what bothers you and the things that make you uncomfortable. You might also want to discuss the limits you would want to set for the both of you which you’d promise to abide by without fail. When the bond of trust is not shaken between spouses, nothing can come between them.


3. Establish Boundaries for the World

Tell the world out loud what you would tolerate and what you would not. If the involvement of the families of each side is a ‘no-no’ for both of you, communicate that to them. If there are some friends, whether yours or your spouse’s, which either of you don’t feel comfortable around or comfortable sharing your relationship with; make that clear to them. Set boundaries for the world and don’t feel guilty about doing so – it is your marriage and you are working for it.




Following are tips to help strengthen your marriage. But first, check out my products related to marriage health.

4. Detoxify Your Marriage

The bond of marriage is very delicate and it could be covered with dust and debris of misunderstandings, doubts, blames, shame, unresolved conflicts and the like. Thus, it is necessary to detoxify your marriage with the help of closer bonding sessions every now and then. This includes building trust, scrubbing off the pessimism and flushing out the resentments through appreciation, encouragement, valuing one another and dreaming of a better tomorrow.


5. The Absence of “Exit” Sign

There is and has to be no room for exit. It is only humane to think about leaving when even the smallest of problems arises, so that you would know you can leave without any baggage any time you wish. But by setting limits, you are actually disciplining yourself to abide by the laws you both have set. You also need to abide by all the set rules so that you can your best in your marriage and continue to try at your best for the improvement of your bond.

So, by following these tips, rather than falling prey to addictions and affairs which are intrusions in your marriage, you will remain in each other’s confines and seek solace in each other’s company. It is you two who have built this fort of marriage and it is you who have to guard it against adversities!

Love to hear your own experiences, stories or questions on the above. Feel free to contact me at [email protected].


An Expert’s Guide to Keeping the Flame of Your Marital Love Blazing

Several of the things I have learned through my 30 plus years of listening, counseling and coaching is that marriage requires a lot of self-awareness and tuning into our partners needs as well as our own. Along with these requirements, of course, we are always keeping...


An Expert’s Guide to Keeping the Flame of Your Marital Love Blazing - Waverlys Several of the things I have learned through my 30 plus years of listening , counseling and coaching is that marriage requires a lot of self-awareness and tuning into our partners needs as...

Marriage Tips to Make Your Marriage Happier

Who wouldn’t want to make their marriage happier and could use a marriage tip or two. When you begin to set aside time for each other again, as well as yourself, you’ll be amazed at the dramatic difference it makes. However, often when we get so busy with life’s...

Divorce Attorney Offers Relationship Advice

Shared by Waverly J. Hanson with permission of The Macomb Daily by Susan Smiley     Most people don’t know each other as well as they think they do. Clinton Township attorney Anthony Urbani has been practicing family law for more than 30 years. Through...

Benefits of Committed Relationships

We have a powerful need and desire for coupling that drives us into and out of relationships. The desire for partnership is pervasive and universal, reaching back to the origin of our species, spanning almost every culture and civilization. 85% of us marry at least...

Is We Just Drifted Apart Inevitable?

Have you heard "We Just Drifted Apart" being used as a “reason” for divorce at least dozens of times? To me this statement is made like it is something seemingly ”inevitable” that just “happens” without cause. Does this statement seem to you to be made almost as a...

Build A Strong Foundation: Marriage Advice

How to Build a Strong Foundation for Your Relationship Because break-ups tend to occur at the beginning of a relationship, it is important that you begin building a strong relationship at the beginning. When you develop a relationship that is healthy from the...

Who Wants A Happy Marriage? Who wouldn’t?

What does it take to make a happy marriage? Is it staying forever in the euphoric state where you were when you first met? Pretty unrealistic, because none of us are perfect! Not really, because that is a stage where you are at least 6 feet off the ground and cannot...

How To Have A Happy Marriage

Most people want a Happy Marriage If you're like most people, you think about having a dream wedding and a happy marriage with a person that you truly love and adore. There's nothing more beautiful than being committed to one person for the rest of your life and...

Want Marriage Help – Use Real Communication

The importance of communication. In any successful relationship, kind and respectful communication is an important key ingredient. When you are in a relationship where you don’t feel that you can honestly communicate with your partner you might want to think about...
Waverly Hanson

Waverly Hanson

Marriage Counselor & Author

In my personal life, I have had a long successful marriage and have remarried following my husband's death.  I have had three sons and helped raise a niece for three years and have seven grandchildren.  I have loved spending time with them as they were growing up.

I also enjoy getting together with family and friends, ATVing in the mountains, photography, hiking, and traveling. I also enjoy reading, creating art, decorating, and serving others by volunteering. 

Assisting couples in rebuilding their marriages has been so rewarding as I've had the privilege of seeing hundreds of couples reunite and get back to being positively connected to one another. 

I also work with personal development and those who want to move forward by making positive improvements such as goal setting, self-care, boundaries, behavioral improvements, overcoming procrastination, conflict management, etc.