Conscious Dating Tips

Ten Principles of Conscious Dating

1. Know who you are and what you want.
Like an iceberg, we are typically aware only of the tip, while our success and happiness depends upon what lies below the surface.

2. Learn how to get what you want.

Assess the information, tools and skills you will need and acquire them. Develop creative strategies and action plans. “When you fail to plan, you plan to fail.”

3. Be the “Chooser.”

Take initiative and responsibility for your outcomes. Don’t react to what, or who, you choose.

4. Balance your heart with your head.

Make your relationship choices consciously. It’s still exciting.

5. Be ready and available for commitment

Live your life and bring your dating strategy into alignment with how ready you really are for a committed relationship.

6. Use the “Law of Attraction”

Be the partner that you are seeking. Attract the partner that you want by developing yourself and living the life that you want. “If you build it they will come.”

7. Gain relationship knowledge and skill

Prepare for the love of your life by learning about relationships, improving your relationship skills, and deepening your relationships with your family, friends and collegues. Date for fun and practice. Take more emotional risks. Read about relationships. Get relationship coaching. Take relationship classes and workshops.

8. Create a support community

Isolated singles become lonely in their relationships when they focus on a partner to meet all their social and emotional needs.

9. Practice assertiveness

To get what you really want, you need to say “no” to what you don’t want

10. Be a “Successful Single”

Don’t put your life on hold waiting for a relationship to happen. Live your life vision and purpose while you are single. The best way to find your life partner is to be a happy, successful person living the life you really want.

© 2004 Relationship Coaching Institute. All Rights Reserved by David Steele, MA, LMFT – Shared by Waverly J Hanson, graduate

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